2017 was the best year of my life professionally without a doubt.
That doesn’t mean it was all rainbows and sunshine, believe me, I had some real lows. I overworked myself herniating 3 discs in my neck rendering me completely useless for over 3 weeks. I overstressed myself and ended up with the shingles (worst thing EVER!). I traveled for a total of 24 days more than I promised my family I would and ended up having to make it up to my hubby and babies who were missing me terribly.
Even through all of that, this was by far my best year yet professionally because of all the lessons I’ve learned. I am stepping in to 2018 SO completely differently than I’ve ever headed into a new year and I want you to do the same.
Here are the biggest lessons I learned in 2017 and how you can apply them to your business as a hair stylist:
You don’t know what you don’t know
I came to term with the fact that even though I’ve accomplished a lot and have taken a ton of education, I still have SO much to learn. No matter how successful or educated you are, you don’t know it all and you aren’t running your business perfectly. I paid the big bucks (way bigger than however much you’re imagining right now) to participate in a very high end coaching group and every single time I met with my group I walked away mind blown at how much I didn’t know. These people were pointing out problems that I wouldn't have even seen in my business had I not opened myself up to their coaching. There is always somebody out there more effective, efficient and successful than you and you’ve got to humble yourself and be open if you really want to level up.
Feel the fear and do it anyway
I am now not afraid to try anything. Sometimes I try things and they end up a hot mess, but who cares, life goes on. My biggest successes this year came when I tried things that scared the sh*t out of me and, oh my gosh, did they explode my business. Nobody became successful playing it safe. Push hard and get outside of your comfort zone.
No personal electronics after 8:30pm
This happened on a whim and WHOA, game changer. At 8:30pm my laptop closes, cell phone goes off and they are fully off limits until the next day. I instantly started falling asleep faster, sleeping more soundly, and I now spend the entire evening connecting with my family or reading a great book instead of mindlessly scrolling Instagram or answering random emails.
Be present at least 3 times a day
You probably go days and days without being present and you don’t even realize it. As often as I can I slow down and just watch in detail how my baby plays games with his race cars, I soak up the sound of my daughter’s laugh and the way her eyes squint as she smiles, I talk a walk holding hands with my husband without ear buds in and I listen to the leaves crinkle beneath our feet and watch trees sway in the wind as we talk about our day. See what I mean? It’s really easy to let life happen around you vs tuning in and fully being present.
Say no to anything that doesn’t light you up
I said no to some killer, once in a lifetime, dream opportunities in 2017 and I have zero guilt. In fact, I’m super proud of myself for putting my personal happiness before work-related trips or engagements. This doesn’t mean I love every single task I do, but I’m super in tune with my priorities now and I’m finding the more I say no out of obligation or FOMO, the happier I am overall.
Don’t ever compare yourself to others, you never know what their journey is really all about
Confession, I used to get jealous just like everybody else. I would see somebody who had more followers than me or who was given some awesome opportunity and I would say “why not me”. This Summer I put blinders on and started focussing on just myself, my tribe and my students and holy sh*t life became so much happier. I am on my own journey and the less energy I spend wasted on wondering what somebody else may or may not be doing, the more time I’ll have to design my own dream life.
You’re never going to be everybody’s favorite and the only opinion of you that matters is your own
I heard through the grapevine that somebody didn’t like me and then spent the next 48 hours tearing myself apart to figure out where I had gone wrong. Literally, WTF. What a waste of time. Not everybody has to like me and I certainly don’t like every single person I meet, so who cares! If you hear anything negative about you, somebody makes fun of you or a mean rumor starts, let it run it’s course and roll off your back. Who freaking cares! The only person who matters at the end of the day is you.
You are enough and perfection doesn’t exist
I. Am. Enough. This was big for me. I spent a lot of time the first half of this year feeling like I needed to jump through hoops or rise to every single occasion and I was killing myself (and giving myself shingles and herniating my neck) and never ever did I reach the final hoop or feel like I accomplished it all. It actually wasn’t until I came to terms with the fact that I am enough did I find true happiness. I need to be balanced, fulfilled, say no, love myself and quit comparing if I am every going to truly be happy.
I hope my best lessons of 2017 can help to bring you some peace and guidance as you head in to 2018 too.
Be sure you join me for my totally free, totally online goal setting workshop coming up the last week of December so that we can ensure your 2018 is the best year it can possibly be.